There is nothing more attractive to women than confidence. If you are really ready for a girlfriend (emotionally stable, thinking of the future…), then you should have every reason to be confident. Before approaching a woman you are attracted to, give yourself a little pep talk.
Think about all the things you have to be confident about. You paid off your student loans. You have a job. You go to the gym. You know three languages…
Confidence is not the same as being boastful or cocky. So, don’t feel like you’ve got to proclaim all of the reasons you have to be confident. The best way to project confidence is to be positive. Never belittle yourself. Compare these two examples:
“I work as a programmer. You don’t want to hear about it; it’s boring.”
“I work as a programmer. It is great because the work is so challenging and the field is always changing.”
Who do you think the woman would want to go out with?
While you are at it, never say bad things about the place, menu, drink selection, etc. Only people who lack confidence feel the need to constantly belittle everything around them. Plus, nobody likes a person who is always negative. If the menu, for example, really is terrible, then make a joke out of it instead of trashing it.
Here’s A Few More Pointers:
1. Keep a smile on your face.
Your smile says a lot about you as a person, because when a person smiles, it generally means that they are happy and confident in who they are as a person. Having an inviting smile is a powerful tool that not only lets people know that you are approachable, but it also allows you to flirt and communicate your likes and/or dislikes without saying a word.
2. Keep your back straight, stomach in and chest out.
The military gets it right when it comes to appearing confident and authoritative. Most people don’t even know the image they are projecting when they are standing around or even just walking on the street.Make it a point to stand up straight and walk tall. The key is to find that balance and understand how your body moves so you can control the messages you are sending out.
Just a warning though: don’t overdo it. You want to appear calm, cool and collected. Too much control will make you look like a robot. Nobody likes a stick in the mud.
3. Avoid talking too fast.
Don’t be a motor mouth. Talking too fast is not only confusing to the person on the receiving end, but it also shows that you may not be putting a lot of thought into what you’re saying.
4. Use your hands.
This one is a biggie, especially for men. Women love men with nice hands, especially when they know how to use them. You should definitely take advantage of this by using them to send signals of confidence.
Learn how to incorporate them into your communication. Try not to fidget or use shaky movements. Relax and use fluid motions to express and emphasize certain words during the conversation. It shows your counterpart that you know how to express yourself and feel comfortable in doing so.