How to Flirt by Touch Without Making It Obvious at All
A flirting touch is exciting and intimate, and yet, it’s harmless and casual. Find out how to flirt by touching and understand the world of body language flirting right here.
It’s not easy to flirt, especially when you can’t get to spend some time alone with the special someone.
But you can still get your message across with a flirting touch, and without overdoing it.
Learn the secrets behind how to flirt by touching without saying a word.
The secret of a flirting touch
Ever felt a tingle of excitement rush up your spine when a good looking person of the opposite sex brushes your arm for no apparent reason?
Well, you’re not alone. An unexpected touch can be warm and fuzzy to just about anyone, and it’s always a great way to show that you have something more than ‘just friends’ in mind.
Another person’s touch (we’re talking about the opposite sex here!) is always soothing, and yet, at the same time, leaves us feeling flushed and slightly uncomfortable. But, one can’t help but want more.
How to flirt by touching
A guy who gets touched by a girl in the middle of a conversation can’t help but connect to her sexually, and a girl who feels the palm of a guy guide her lower back unexpectedly can’t help feeling the tingle rush down her spine.
It happens naturally, doesn’t it?
There may have been times when you are in the middle of a sleepy conversation while this friend just drones on and on about the problems they’re having with their third aunt’s great grandmother. But then, when this friend grasps your palm gently and asks you for an opinion, you can’t help but slip up a bit, and pull yourself together.
It’s not because you were touched by the boring story, but because you suddenly warmed up to this friend, and just for that instant, you actually realized that your chat-mate is a member of the opposite sex.
And just for that one moment, thoughts of more than just holding hands flash across your mind. Yeah, yeah… I know you’ve felt that. You don’t need to squirm and protest. And the surprising fact about it is that, it happens to everybody! Irrespective of how good looking or charming either of you are. But yeah, it can get creepy if the touch lingers too long!
Why do we get excited by a flirting touch?
So why does this happen? Why do we (even if it is for just an instant) get attracted sexually to this friend all of a sudden, just because of a simple unexpected touch? Well, you see, it’s all in our head. Our minds are programmed in such a way that a human touch triggers a positive feeling within us. [Read: How to have sex with a friend]
Real life flirting touches and emotional connections
And this makes a huge impact on who we get attracted to. The impact of touch is a lot stronger than our senses of sight, smell, or sound. Let’s just contemplate over this thought.
Now why do you think people find it a lot easier to open up while partying? And why is it that it’s so easy to kiss someone on the dance floor, even if it’s just friends? No, it’s not the booze and the music (though they do play a small part). It’s actually all in the power of playful touching. Our sense of touch is so strong when it comes to attraction of the sexes that it overpowers all other senses put together, albeit momentarily, or until one of you get back to your senses.
That means you can simply touch a member of the opposite sex the right way and attract them, better than you would have been able to do in any other way.
The sense of touch in humans is so sensitive because of today’s society. When someone whom you know as “just a friend” holds your hand accidentally, it comes as a surprise. Can you remember the last time you were in a situation where another person of the opposite sex touched you flirtatiously? You sure can’t forget that person, can you? The fact that you can remember that flirty person so easily just demonstrates the power of flirting touching. [Read: Best places to go on a date]
The real art of flirting by touching
Flirting by accidental touch doesn’t mean manhandling and pawing at the other person. It’s the subtle art of drawing a person closer to you with your lingering touch. But this form of flirting is never easy, and there’s a lot more chance of you being labeled slutty or horny rather than a cool cat.
Some people touch all the time, which makes decoding these signs all the more harder. But if you know how to go about it the right way, and compliment your accidental touches with your tone and body language, you won’t just get the message across, you’ll have your date all over you!
Learn the art of flirting by touch and learn to flirt and seduce someone into liking you in no time.
The art of touchy feely flirting
Here are four points that can make all the difference if you want to flirt and make someone like you just by flirting with them and touching them at the right time. Body language attraction and responses
This is as simple as it gets. Keep a keen eye on the body language of your date.
After you start touching your date occasionally, is your potential mate leaning in closer or sitting down in such a manner that both your feet are almost next to each other?
When your date leans in to talk from across a table, do their hands stretch out a little further than necessary?
Or if you’re at a bar counter, and you slide towards them to let others pass, does your date place their hands on you?
If your date is purring inside because of your body language attraction, they can’t help but involuntarily try getting more body contact from you.
If you see that happening, give yourself a pat on the back. You’re going great guns. If it’s not happening, ease up the frequency of touching.
How often should attract using body language?
It’s easy to get carried away while playing touchy feely. But don’t overdo yourself. Don’t let a simple positive response to touch take you all the way to the petting zoo.
Both of you may be touchy feely flirting discreetly, without actually acknowledging it. If you overdo it, you could bring things to a grinding uncomfortable halt [Read: Public display of affection etiquette]. Guys, don’t go rubbing the arms while flirting for the first time. And girls, don’t ever pinch a guy, that’s just annoyingly kiddish. As the date progresses, try stepping into each other’s boundaries by moving closer, instead of increasing the frequency of petting.
And you’d know if you can move in closer by the way your date responds to you. So watch out for the signs and keep the frequency of petting discreet.
Sure signs of body language attraction
Touchy feely flirting can be so much fun, and that’s not just for you. Your date would love it too! But how do know if your date is having a great time feeling you up? Well, there are a few signs that are just way too hard to miss. If your date’s enjoying the attention, it would only be a matter of time before they start touching you back. And that’s when you know you’re spot on.
Still confused? More signs include a hand on your knee, arm or shoulder for more than a second or two, which is definitely more than a casual touch. If someone positions himself or herself right behind you so that they have to reach around you to get something, that’s a sure signal. Let’s face it, if your date found you repulsive, they would find another route to get what they wanted, instead of sliding their palm across your sides, wouldn’t they?
Mutual moves in body language attraction
In addition to touching, watch for someone who follows your lead. If you lean into talk, does she lean towards you or away? If you touch him on the arm, how does he respond?
When most people really like someone, they will signal with body language, even if they are not yet comfortable with touching. And don’t give up. Some people are bad at flirting. But you can always know they like you if they seem to pay attention to you. So watch out for mutual moves.
Even if it takes time for your date to warm up, with a keen eye, you’d be able to make out a few key changes in the behavior. You will start to recognize their touchy feely flirting whether it is through touching, body language or actions.
The final word in body language attraction
All it takes to impress a hot date is an accidental touch that’s premeditated, planned and executed with grace and finesse. Remember to keep a keen eye for mutual signs and make sure you take things further, one step at a time, without overdoing it even once.
Flirting by accidental touch using the attraction of body language is like stacking up a pack of cards one on top of the other. You need to build the attraction and the tension carefully. On the other hand, one wrong move is all it takes to mess everything up, and look sleazy.
So plan your touchy feely flirting with class. You’d be much more confident to determine if that slow hand brush down your arm is a reciprocating move, or a move to push you out of their spac
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